Well, it's about time. In an effort to get settled into married life, I had to put a few things on hold--blogging happened to be one of them. I sure have missed my blog.
In exactly four days, Darron and I will have been married two months. I absolutely love married life. I tease Darron a lot about how much laundry he accumulates! I wash clothes about twice a week to stay on top of everything. I was listening to a Marriage on the Rock CD on "Designing Your Dream Spouse." In the lesson, the female author of the book with the self-same title of the lesson shared how she spent the first four years of her marriage comparing her husband to her father or some other great, male leaders that she admired in her church. Why can't you be like Brother Such-and-Such, the great orator and speaker? Or Minister Whatcha-ma-call-him, the man of the supernatural? Unbenownest to her she was tearing her husband down with her words until one day she looked up and she didn't even recognize him.
Realizing that she was serving as a destructive force of the enemy rather than a "builder", she began to actively seek out wise counsel. She remembered a woman whose personality is typically domineering, passionate and strong who was married to a more reserved male. "How in the world does she do it?" she mused. How does she keep from running over him?" As she spoke with her friend and new mentor she learned a critical truth. She didn't marry the man in his "height" of greatness. In fact, he was far from that early in their relationship. But rather than speaking "to the gap" she spoke to his potential. (Lisa Bevere quote)
How many of us women speak to our spouse's gap (lack or insufficiency)? To our children's gaps rather than speaking to their potential? Proverbs 14:1 states, "A wise woman builds her house but the foolish tears it down with her own hands." With her own hands.
Are you your family's worse enemy?
Taking the wise advice of this woman who had been married longer than she and was experiencing sustained success in her marriage relationship, the mentor encouraged her to identify a man in the Bible to whom she could "safely" compare her husband to without tearing him down. And with the Holy Spirit's guidance, she identified Joseph as the biblical character that she most found as sharing similar attributes and character traits of that of her husband.
Most people know the story of Joseph's coat with many colors. This woman went out and bought a brand new suit for her husband. Then holding up the coat she allowed that coat to represent her husband as she tenderly laid hands on it and began to intercede for her husband. As she poured herself into that prayer something supernatural began to happen. She began to see her husband as Christ saw him and thus began to treat him as if he were a Joseph. She began to pray for him as if he were already the mighty leader rather than looking at him in disdain because he was still on "the path to becoming".
So as I wash my Beloved's laundry, I pray over his day-to-day business. I pray for wisdom and favor to rise up in him. I declare success, and light and understanding. I declare increase and promotion.
It's a powerful thing to see a man through God's eyes.
Million Dollar Question:
Whether you are married or not, does/will your spouse see his or herself through your eyes? Is that an encouraging or discouraging thing?
If it is discouraging, in what way can you begin changing that today? If it is encouraging, in what way can you increase the empowerment that you provide?
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Thursday, May 1, 2008
Can You Believe it?--29 Days to the Big Day
Well, saints the glorious days is quickly approaching. Darron called me this morning at work to tell me that we are exactly 29 days out from our marriage union. Glory to God, forever! Even his colleagues at work are counting down for him.
Our motto has been, "No stress!" And we've done pretty well at keeping the tension down and resisting the external or internal pressures that come with wedding planning. You know the temptations. The temptation to try to "outspend" the Joneses so that your wedding can be listed in "People's" Magazine or something. I got the greatest advice. One from Jennifer O and another from Candria. Jenn dropped the vision of a chapel into my spirit...the wooden pews, the ambiance that is associated with grand structures, etc. I'll never forget how I teared up as she described what she wanted in a wedding venue. My response was a quiet testament to my own secret desire gently revealed. I knew that's what I wanted.
Then Candria, at breakfast one morning, told me to pick my Top 3 Must Have's and to not compromise on them one iota. She asked me to discover Darron's as well and to make a commitment to "make that happen"...everything else is unimportant.
What were my Top 3?
1. The Chapel
2. The Photography
3. The Ring/Dress
I can say with brimming pride and a skip in my step, that all 3 desires have been met.
Now although I have been asked about little niceties such as food, invitations, or party favors, because it's not in the Top 3, it won't receive the focus of my energy and time. As a couple, we have committed to ridding ourselves of the shackles of debt and to do so we must start with what is immediately before us--the wedding. Wise financial stewardship goes a long way and will only add to the peace and stability we desire in our home. And while there are gorgeous invitations out there, the primary purpose for an invitation is for the dissemination of information and not the wowwing of guests.
We can't break the bank to keep up with the proverbial Joneses. It's like what Pastor John Osteen used to say, "Those people who feel they have to keep up with the Joneses don't realize the Joneses went broke last week!"
I love that line! And by the way, our last name is not Jones, it's Anderson!
Our motto has been, "No stress!" And we've done pretty well at keeping the tension down and resisting the external or internal pressures that come with wedding planning. You know the temptations. The temptation to try to "outspend" the Joneses so that your wedding can be listed in "People's" Magazine or something. I got the greatest advice. One from Jennifer O and another from Candria. Jenn dropped the vision of a chapel into my spirit...the wooden pews, the ambiance that is associated with grand structures, etc. I'll never forget how I teared up as she described what she wanted in a wedding venue. My response was a quiet testament to my own secret desire gently revealed. I knew that's what I wanted.
Then Candria, at breakfast one morning, told me to pick my Top 3 Must Have's and to not compromise on them one iota. She asked me to discover Darron's as well and to make a commitment to "make that happen"...everything else is unimportant.
What were my Top 3?
1. The Chapel
2. The Photography
3. The Ring/Dress
I can say with brimming pride and a skip in my step, that all 3 desires have been met.
Now although I have been asked about little niceties such as food, invitations, or party favors, because it's not in the Top 3, it won't receive the focus of my energy and time. As a couple, we have committed to ridding ourselves of the shackles of debt and to do so we must start with what is immediately before us--the wedding. Wise financial stewardship goes a long way and will only add to the peace and stability we desire in our home. And while there are gorgeous invitations out there, the primary purpose for an invitation is for the dissemination of information and not the wowwing of guests.
We can't break the bank to keep up with the proverbial Joneses. It's like what Pastor John Osteen used to say, "Those people who feel they have to keep up with the Joneses don't realize the Joneses went broke last week!"
I love that line! And by the way, our last name is not Jones, it's Anderson!
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
So How's that Lofty List Coming...?
Things have been hopping since the last time we spoke. I am happy to announce to all my readers out there in cyberspace that Darron and I are going to be married on May 31, 2008!
I cannot even begin to express our adulation. But since you're wondering about specifics, I will willingly indulge you.
Darron and I have courted for almost three years. A longer stint than what we initially planned but a necessary one since we felt we needed to practice financial responsibility. Getting married older has its advantages; however, the principal disadvantage is that at my age, you may have a little more debt than you should have. And since finances is hands down the source of great strife and tension in a marriage, we felt strongly that we had to gain some insight on how to tackle it so that we wouldn't fall into the same traps as so many couples do in this arena. Talk about stretching!!!
Last December I got a call from my pining Beloved (girls, ya gotta love that!) that we needed to get this "show" on the road. After discussing what the wedding day should look and feel like, we began to talk about a preliminary budget that could make our wedding day affordable yet elegant at the same time.
We started planning it the week of Valentine's Day and was able to secure my fairy-tale like venue, Ashton Gardens, that week! This was such a miracle because we initially thought it was out of our price range. And although we had settled upon having our wedding at a beautiful church in north Houston, a divine slot opened up for us to have it at our dream location. What a God! And to be able to secure such a well sought-after location three months before our wedding day is awesome indeed!
Got a great deal on my dress! Wait till you see me in it! It was shipped in two weeks (record breaking time so that I can get it altered in time for my bridal portraits). My photographer helped me find this great make up artist and so she'll be doing both my make up for my engagement, bridal and wedding photos! I have had SO much fun! And it has been quite smooth.
So I can cross off marrying my Sweetheart now.
We're 87 days out from our glorious union! And I feel blessed and at peace all at the same time!
I cannot even begin to express our adulation. But since you're wondering about specifics, I will willingly indulge you.
Darron and I have courted for almost three years. A longer stint than what we initially planned but a necessary one since we felt we needed to practice financial responsibility. Getting married older has its advantages; however, the principal disadvantage is that at my age, you may have a little more debt than you should have. And since finances is hands down the source of great strife and tension in a marriage, we felt strongly that we had to gain some insight on how to tackle it so that we wouldn't fall into the same traps as so many couples do in this arena. Talk about stretching!!!
Last December I got a call from my pining Beloved (girls, ya gotta love that!) that we needed to get this "show" on the road. After discussing what the wedding day should look and feel like, we began to talk about a preliminary budget that could make our wedding day affordable yet elegant at the same time.
We started planning it the week of Valentine's Day and was able to secure my fairy-tale like venue, Ashton Gardens, that week! This was such a miracle because we initially thought it was out of our price range. And although we had settled upon having our wedding at a beautiful church in north Houston, a divine slot opened up for us to have it at our dream location. What a God! And to be able to secure such a well sought-after location three months before our wedding day is awesome indeed!
Got a great deal on my dress! Wait till you see me in it! It was shipped in two weeks (record breaking time so that I can get it altered in time for my bridal portraits). My photographer helped me find this great make up artist and so she'll be doing both my make up for my engagement, bridal and wedding photos! I have had SO much fun! And it has been quite smooth.
So I can cross off marrying my Sweetheart now.
We're 87 days out from our glorious union! And I feel blessed and at peace all at the same time!
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
1001 Days From Now
The year is 2011. Just take a moment to look at that year and let it set for a bit.
Time marches on so quickly. Before we know it a decade or two has slipped by, almost between our fingers. Just in my three short decades, I wonder how many words I have left unsaid; plans I have left undone?
During my Teen Mania Days we were driven to almost the point of obsession with Life Goals and Action Plans. Those were some of the most formative and character-development days of my life. I often found myself gritting my teeth through aggressive challenges such as climbing Pike's Peak on just two hours of sleep, traveling 24 + hours to provide the ground support needed for Aquire the Fire's first Dome event, staying up late hours counseling young girls, and wrestling with my own insecurities and adverse issues. Man, we lived to the hilt. However, in my effort to find a natural hum and rhythm to life, I let go of a lot of that determined living that was expected of us out in the red hills of East Texas.
I can say with all honesty that I was awakened out of a lullish state as I was perusing through a friend's website. Her name is Kim Jarman and she is one of the most GIFTED photographers I have ever seen. Check out her site at kimberlyjarman.com. I love her work! Anyway, while enjoying the pictures, I happened upon her blog and thought I might as well take a look. She had written an entry that got my attention and so I wanted to share it with you. A few close friends challenged Kim to articulate 101 goals that she could accomplish in 1001 days....that's three years folks! Hence the title: "1001 Days From Now".
I loved her list and thought that I would prepare and share one for all my readers out there.
I desparately need the accountability and hope that the constant questions from my friends regarding where I am at in my List will create some wind for sailing and even soaring to successfully completing my list. Hope that you will badger me about it!
Okay, here goes:
101 Things in 1001 Days--January 23, 2008
1. Marry my Sweetheart
2. Plan an elegant and yet affordable wedding--debt free
3. Financially bless the family I am staying with
4. Financially bless my surrogate family that allows me to stay over
5. To serve as an effective tool to help my parents realize their dreams (especially financial independence)
6. To finish typing out Darron's manuscript
7. Begin research on Greeting Card Business
8. Develop effective strategy and timeline for execution of Greeting Card Business
9. Significantly grow my Ameriplan business to 1,000 in my organization
10. Duplicate myself in my IBO's to do the same
11. Complete my Teacher's Certification for High school and Middle School/ Register for School
12. Obtain my Masters Degree (Possibly Education)
13. Get certified as a Life Coach/Motivational Speaker (Biblically based principles)
14. Complete manuscript for my first book
15. Go on writing retreats two times a year
16. Write two more manuscripts that hold value and meaning
17. Plan one successful youth event
18. Plan curriculum for small to mid-size churches
19. Develop an effective "Teach the teachers" program
20 Go on a cruise with my husband
21. Go on a cruise with Brenda
22. Visit Brenda twice a year
23. Help Brenda put in writing the anointed ideas she has for college women
24. Help Candria with cookbook
25. Help Tamika with Youth line
26. Truly invest in the God-given visions of my friends
27. Help the Schneiders with their vision
28. Help my sister find her unique and individual "voice"
29. Have children
30. Begin a robust Emergency Fund
31. Begin a robust Savings Plan (Short term and Long Term)
32. Begin a robust Retirement Plan for Darron and I
33. Begin a Savings Plan to care for both of our parents
34. Purchase a home
35. Begin an aggressive and strategic way to pay mortgage
36. Expand the life of my car to 250 K
37. Buy all cars in cash
38. Take refresher English and Grammar Courses
39. Seek and avenue to minister to women in churches across Houston
40. Seek and avenue to minister to singles
41. Seek an avenue to minister to youth
42. Grow movie collection (especially classics and black and whites)
43. Consolidate quote collectiion
44. Update wardrobe (professional and casual)
45. Update house furnishing and décor
46. Lead a debt-free lifestyle
47. Pay off student loans
48. Take Financial Courses at Church and other venues
49. Read Financial and Business Books
50. Read Educational Books
51. Take an intermediate Piano Course
52. Take a Harp Class
53. Take a course on massages
54. Perform regular deep cleanings in my home
55. Exercise three times a week (aerobic/spin)
56. Take swim class and become a confident swimmer
57. Eat more fruit--as a daily regiment
58. Take a photography class
59. Get monthly pedicure and manicures (Aaaaahhhhhh!)
60. Complete a new book each month rather than segments of it
61. Become more internet savvy (gain mastery)
62. Cultivate the presence of God in my home and life
63. Create and protect an atmosphere in which the peace of God is our home
64. Place sermons in one folder/binder for further development and easy retrieval
65. Get new glasses and contacts
66. Teeth cleaning and whitening
67. Braces (Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhh!!) I am praying that they'll be invalign (oh, the vanity!)
68. Sister and niece nights
69. Reach out to my in-laws in a way that is meaningful to them
70. Reach out to all my nieces and nephews in a way that is extremely meaningful to them
71. Celebrate birthdays and anniversaries of my family members
72. Honor my grandmother and great aunt by spending quality time with them and sending flowers
73. Send flowers to my future mother in laws a few times a year
74. Develop my spectrum of recipes especially beef
75. Lead a healthy lifestyle
76. Have a house full of healthy and tasty snacks
77. Start Life insurances
78. Get regular facials; take care of my skin
79. Be current on Current Events and Politics
80. Learn how to fly airplanes on Darron's video assimilation
81. Create an office or work station for Darron to work on his model planes in our home
82. Be intentional about working on my writing craft
83. Buy a TV guardian
84. Take care of hair (healthy)
85. Give to Keith moore, bill winston, Kenneth copeland's ministries
86. Take vitamins and supplements daily
87. Shop at Whole foods and central market, farmers market
88. Buy a digital camera that's computer compatible
89. Complete 3 Beth Moore Bible Studies for personal study
90. Apply what I have learned from the Happy Hunters regarding Healing and Authority
91. Apply what I have learned from Bill Winston re: The Kingdom in my work and life
92. Financially sow into a ORU student
93. Help Darron in accomplishing all of his dreams
94. Minister with Darron in teaching and writing
95. Create some memorable Father and Son moments for Darron and his son
96. Host some private dinner parties for close friends a few times a year
97. Hone my craft as a business woman
98. Hone and father develop message on the Garden of Eden (WWW from April 06)
99. Be intentional about developing relationship with my cousin, Melodee
100. Sow into Uresa for graduation/ Read through my Bible
With that being said, Happy New Year, Saints! So tell me, what are you expecting for this year? If you could pen down 101 things you'd like to accomplish in 1001 days, what would they be? How about in 101 days? That would take us to May 2, 2008. What do you say? Would you like to share with me your list?
Millionaire Dollar Challenge:
Divide your list into three groups of 33. What 33 things would you like to accomplish in 2008? What items can you accomplish with relative ease and what item will require more preparation and training? Out of the first group of 33, which items fall in your Top Ten list and which fall in your Top Five list? What item is #1 on your list (I bet you can figure out which one mine is! ) Oh, don't forget the outstanding two items that didn't fall into the three groups of 33.
Partner with a friend (possibly a Type "A" personality who will provide that additional support to accomplishing your goals). Get ready to stretch and grow! Happy trails!
Time marches on so quickly. Before we know it a decade or two has slipped by, almost between our fingers. Just in my three short decades, I wonder how many words I have left unsaid; plans I have left undone?
During my Teen Mania Days we were driven to almost the point of obsession with Life Goals and Action Plans. Those were some of the most formative and character-development days of my life. I often found myself gritting my teeth through aggressive challenges such as climbing Pike's Peak on just two hours of sleep, traveling 24 + hours to provide the ground support needed for Aquire the Fire's first Dome event, staying up late hours counseling young girls, and wrestling with my own insecurities and adverse issues. Man, we lived to the hilt. However, in my effort to find a natural hum and rhythm to life, I let go of a lot of that determined living that was expected of us out in the red hills of East Texas.
I can say with all honesty that I was awakened out of a lullish state as I was perusing through a friend's website. Her name is Kim Jarman and she is one of the most GIFTED photographers I have ever seen. Check out her site at kimberlyjarman.com. I love her work! Anyway, while enjoying the pictures, I happened upon her blog and thought I might as well take a look. She had written an entry that got my attention and so I wanted to share it with you. A few close friends challenged Kim to articulate 101 goals that she could accomplish in 1001 days....that's three years folks! Hence the title: "1001 Days From Now".
I loved her list and thought that I would prepare and share one for all my readers out there.
I desparately need the accountability and hope that the constant questions from my friends regarding where I am at in my List will create some wind for sailing and even soaring to successfully completing my list. Hope that you will badger me about it!
Okay, here goes:
101 Things in 1001 Days--January 23, 2008
1. Marry my Sweetheart
2. Plan an elegant and yet affordable wedding--debt free
3. Financially bless the family I am staying with
4. Financially bless my surrogate family that allows me to stay over
5. To serve as an effective tool to help my parents realize their dreams (especially financial independence)
6. To finish typing out Darron's manuscript
7. Begin research on Greeting Card Business
8. Develop effective strategy and timeline for execution of Greeting Card Business
9. Significantly grow my Ameriplan business to 1,000 in my organization
10. Duplicate myself in my IBO's to do the same
11. Complete my Teacher's Certification for High school and Middle School/ Register for School
12. Obtain my Masters Degree (Possibly Education)
13. Get certified as a Life Coach/Motivational Speaker (Biblically based principles)
14. Complete manuscript for my first book
15. Go on writing retreats two times a year
16. Write two more manuscripts that hold value and meaning
17. Plan one successful youth event
18. Plan curriculum for small to mid-size churches
19. Develop an effective "Teach the teachers" program
20 Go on a cruise with my husband
21. Go on a cruise with Brenda
22. Visit Brenda twice a year
23. Help Brenda put in writing the anointed ideas she has for college women
24. Help Candria with cookbook
25. Help Tamika with Youth line
26. Truly invest in the God-given visions of my friends
27. Help the Schneiders with their vision
28. Help my sister find her unique and individual "voice"
29. Have children
30. Begin a robust Emergency Fund
31. Begin a robust Savings Plan (Short term and Long Term)
32. Begin a robust Retirement Plan for Darron and I
33. Begin a Savings Plan to care for both of our parents
34. Purchase a home
35. Begin an aggressive and strategic way to pay mortgage
36. Expand the life of my car to 250 K
37. Buy all cars in cash
38. Take refresher English and Grammar Courses
39. Seek and avenue to minister to women in churches across Houston
40. Seek and avenue to minister to singles
41. Seek an avenue to minister to youth
42. Grow movie collection (especially classics and black and whites)
43. Consolidate quote collectiion
44. Update wardrobe (professional and casual)
45. Update house furnishing and décor
46. Lead a debt-free lifestyle
47. Pay off student loans
48. Take Financial Courses at Church and other venues
49. Read Financial and Business Books
50. Read Educational Books
51. Take an intermediate Piano Course
52. Take a Harp Class
53. Take a course on massages
54. Perform regular deep cleanings in my home
55. Exercise three times a week (aerobic/spin)
56. Take swim class and become a confident swimmer
57. Eat more fruit--as a daily regiment
58. Take a photography class
59. Get monthly pedicure and manicures (Aaaaahhhhhh!)
60. Complete a new book each month rather than segments of it
61. Become more internet savvy (gain mastery)
62. Cultivate the presence of God in my home and life
63. Create and protect an atmosphere in which the peace of God is our home
64. Place sermons in one folder/binder for further development and easy retrieval
65. Get new glasses and contacts
66. Teeth cleaning and whitening
67. Braces (Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhh!!) I am praying that they'll be invalign (oh, the vanity!)
68. Sister and niece nights
69. Reach out to my in-laws in a way that is meaningful to them
70. Reach out to all my nieces and nephews in a way that is extremely meaningful to them
71. Celebrate birthdays and anniversaries of my family members
72. Honor my grandmother and great aunt by spending quality time with them and sending flowers
73. Send flowers to my future mother in laws a few times a year
74. Develop my spectrum of recipes especially beef
75. Lead a healthy lifestyle
76. Have a house full of healthy and tasty snacks
77. Start Life insurances
78. Get regular facials; take care of my skin
79. Be current on Current Events and Politics
80. Learn how to fly airplanes on Darron's video assimilation
81. Create an office or work station for Darron to work on his model planes in our home
82. Be intentional about working on my writing craft
83. Buy a TV guardian
84. Take care of hair (healthy)
85. Give to Keith moore, bill winston, Kenneth copeland's ministries
86. Take vitamins and supplements daily
87. Shop at Whole foods and central market, farmers market
88. Buy a digital camera that's computer compatible
89. Complete 3 Beth Moore Bible Studies for personal study
90. Apply what I have learned from the Happy Hunters regarding Healing and Authority
91. Apply what I have learned from Bill Winston re: The Kingdom in my work and life
92. Financially sow into a ORU student
93. Help Darron in accomplishing all of his dreams
94. Minister with Darron in teaching and writing
95. Create some memorable Father and Son moments for Darron and his son
96. Host some private dinner parties for close friends a few times a year
97. Hone my craft as a business woman
98. Hone and father develop message on the Garden of Eden (WWW from April 06)
99. Be intentional about developing relationship with my cousin, Melodee
100. Sow into Uresa for graduation/ Read through my Bible
With that being said, Happy New Year, Saints! So tell me, what are you expecting for this year? If you could pen down 101 things you'd like to accomplish in 1001 days, what would they be? How about in 101 days? That would take us to May 2, 2008. What do you say? Would you like to share with me your list?
Millionaire Dollar Challenge:
Divide your list into three groups of 33. What 33 things would you like to accomplish in 2008? What items can you accomplish with relative ease and what item will require more preparation and training? Out of the first group of 33, which items fall in your Top Ten list and which fall in your Top Five list? What item is #1 on your list (I bet you can figure out which one mine is! ) Oh, don't forget the outstanding two items that didn't fall into the three groups of 33.
Partner with a friend (possibly a Type "A" personality who will provide that additional support to accomplishing your goals). Get ready to stretch and grow! Happy trails!
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